This week’s dress of the week is this beautiful Lela Rose Bridesmaid’s dress. Amy Leefe picked it for her bridesmaids and, as you can see, they were perfect! The cut and fit of the dress is flattering to all body types. In the picture above, there’s even a bridesmaid that is pregnant, but I bet you can’t tell which one she is!!! This dress comes in almost every color you can think of, but for the outdoor wedding that Amy had at her family home, I think the green looks amazing. Great pick, Amy!
Bride’s name – Katie St. Germain
Wedding date – July 19, 2014
Wedding Venue – St. Mary’s Assumption and the Chicory
Katie wore these beautiful Badgley Mischka shoes that her sister actually wore to her wedding earlier in the year! So they were one of her many “somethings borrowed!” Katie says that she doesn’t “usually like a lot of bling but (she) thought they were just the perfect amount – like a little business in the front, party in the back!”
Did you make it the whole night wearing them? “I wore them through the ceremony and about an hour into the reception, once I was ready to hit the dance floor, they were a little too uncomfortable for that. I changed into some bejeweled flats from BHLDN.” (pictured above)
This Cameron Blake dress is for all the moms out there (both mother-of-the bride and mother-of-the groom) that are tired of seeing the subdued choices offered to “moms.” I have been seeing some saucy dresses at my recent weddings and I am glad to see moms taking more risks and making themselves more noticeable for their child’s big day! Here’s to all the moms who are risk takers and heart breakers!!
Obviously, I am a huge Sex and the City fan! Any time I watch the scene of Carrie Bradshaw’s Vogue shoot, I always think she chose the wrong wedding dress. So I decided to post my choice for favorite dress in that sequence. While I loved the Vivian Westwood that Carrie chose, it was this beautiful Oscar de le Renta dress that won my heart! It is more subtle than the Vivian Westwood, and more elegant, in my opinion. It was definitely the best of the group!!
This week’s Dress of the Week comes from Amy Panzeca. She wore this beautiful Sherri Hill dress to her Senior Prom in May. I thought this dress was a beautiful option for Prom, of course, but also for guests attending a formal wedding or even as an option for bridesmaids or special attendants. It’s gorgeous and tasteful while still being a bit sexy and has a very sophisticated feel to it. Great pick, Amy! You look amazing!!
It is my personal belief that if you are marketing yourself as a professional, then you should know how to conduct yourself as a professional. One of the main parts of being professional is presentation and like it or not, that does include your dress attire and overall appearance. I do have a few pet peeves and (aside from vendors that drink at the weddings, but that is for another topic) one of the biggest for me is seeing vendors dressed inappropriately at weddings. This is not something that I run into very often, but when I do, I always think it cannot get any worse. But it always does.
I worked a wedding a few months ago with a photographer/ videographer (hired by the bride against my recommendation) wearing old khaki shorts and a polo shirt with tennis shoes to shoot a wedding in the St. Louis Cathedral. If this isn’t shocking to you, please turn your misalette to the section that specifies wearing shorts in a Catholic church is completely disrespectful! Regardless of whether or not you are in a church, you are still at someone’s wedding. A day that they spent a lot of money on, including your fee, and you could not give them better than cut-off kakis and a polo shirt? You’re not a pool boy at the local country club. You are a “professional” wedding photographer/ videographer for goodness sake.
As if that were not bad enough, just a month ago, I had a bride tell me that she wanted to bring in a photographer from out of town to shoot her wedding. It was someone that she knew from high school that is now a “professional” photographer (and after meeting her, I use that term loosely.) I had checked out her website and got clearance from the venue so we were good to go. On the day of the wedding, however, not only did she show up late (which is not the point of this) but she also showed up wearing black Nike umbro running shorts, a black tank top and white tennis shoes with reflectors on them. Why do I mention the reflectors, because that’s what showed up in every picture that the guests or other vendors tried to take when she was in the frame. That’s one way to prevent guests from being able to shoot while you are trying to do your job.
I realize this school of thought, dictating appropriate dress codes, may sound “old school” to some of you. I’d be willing to bet that those of you who think this is “old school” are those of you who are just starting out in this business (just like these vendors) that thought shooting weddings would be easy money because you get to go to a party every weekend. If this stereotype does not apply to you, please accept my apology. However, I am pretty sure the “good ole boys” who have been in this business since film was the primary way to shoot a wedding, won’t find it offensive that I think it is unprofessional to wear shorts on any job, much less in a church.
I do have to say that the only times I’ve ever seen this as an issue, the vendors have all been from out of town, even if that means Baton Rouge, and they have all been new to the business. Again, if you are a newer vendor from out of town and this does not apply to you, congratulate yourself and keep up the good work. If this does apply to you, please know your market and know what is acceptable and not acceptable in each situation. What might be appropriate for a casual, picnic wedding at a country farm may not be appropriate for a Black Tie wedding in New Orleans.
I do realize that a lot of this can be subject to each person’s opinion. I also understand that some people may feel it is shallow to judge someone for the way they dress, but I believe that is something lazy people crutch onto so that they do not have to brush their hair in the morning. When brides ask me to keep anyone out of their reception wearing jeans, or dressed outside of the dress code, they listed on the invitation, what am I supposed to do when the photographer shows up wearing something barely suitable for a picnic in the park? In this situation, you might have the best product out there, but if you want a job where you can dress down every day, then perhaps you should be a landscape photographer.
Do not get me wrong, no one says you have to show up wearing 6 inch stiletto heels like I do – I admit, it’s a bit aggressive. But again, create a uniform that consists of simple black pants and maybe a black dress shirt, or something of that nature. Black rubber-soled shoes, ballet slippers, boots… all of these things are acceptable. Here are some things that are not:
1. Shorts of any kind 2. Flip flops (in most cases) – but at the end of the night, if they are given out as a favor from the bride, join in the fun! 3. Tank tops – even when worn with a skirt. Sleeveless shirts are very different than tank tops… learn the difference. 4. Jeans 5. A baseball cap
Please understand that what you wear to a meeting and how you present yourself upon an interview with these brides and grooms is totally different and completely up to you to be relaxed and “easy going.” But when you walk into a wedding, you should know that these girls ask their guests to uphold a certain dress code. It’s the least we can do as vendors to blend in and not be so pompous to believe we are above the wishes of our clients. No one says you have to wear a tuxedo just because the invitation says black tie, but learn how to blend in and have some respect for the clients you work for and the events you are capturing. After all, we are walking into a day that has been in the mind of most of these brides since they were young girls. What we wear should not be what they remember most from their wedding day, unless it is a fabulous pair of Manolos!